Types of Children's Personality According to Psychology
The success of a child is influenced by the potential of a child who depends on the state of the house, school and the environment so it is important for parents to establish harmonious relationships to accommodate the potential of children to develop. The key, parents must know how to educate and accommodate children's behavior according to their personality. If parents know the character of the child well, communication and interaction between children and parents will be easier, effective and help the ideal and harmonious relationship between children and parents can be achieved. Florance Littauer in his book entitled Personality Plus for Parents writes, there are four basic personalities that can be used as benchmarks to identify the character and personality of a child for parents as follows:
Personality of Cholers
Motto: "Just do it now"Nickname: "The Executor"
Children who have a choleric personality background naturally focus on life goals and objectives. His life is devoted to achievement and always organizes every action. They also demand real loyalty and appreciation from their surroundings. Koleris also always tries to control and expects recognition of the achievements. They also like to accept challenges and accept difficult things. Self-discipline and their ability to focus make them talented to be strong leaders. However, the bad effect is their strong determination to make them often addicted to work, like feeling right on their own, stubborn, and not sensitive to other people's feelings.Facing koleris children must be a communication approach that is carried out without involving feelings or judgment. Koleris children tend to be insensitive to feelings so parents should not be easily offended or hurt if the child gives a strong response when reprimanded or ordered. Koleris children really uphold justice, logic, honesty and openness. If parents want to ask a koleris child to do something, give clearly what the intent and purpose without having to set the steps step by step. They are happy to be trusted without having to be regulated and directed.
Moto: "Let's have fun now"Nickname: The Speaker
Children who have sanguinis are children who tend to have big energy, be flexible, and like to have fun. Children with this personality type like to seek love, support, and recognition from the people around them. They always bring excitement under any conditions, like to be the center of attention, and love to motivate others. They are usually optimistic and almost always pleasant. But they can also be irregular, emotional, and hypersensitive about what people say to them. Sanguinis type kids love to be in the spotlight and like pluralism. They provide an aggressive response to a personal conversation and attention. If parents ask sanguinis children to do something, they prefer to be left to finishing creatively by just giving signs and lattices. Make sure parents do not force and intervene in children, but teach discipline that is full of enthusiasm and positivity. Support sanguinis children to join in the group activities of their age. They are very interactive and are good at getting along and living the atmosphere wherever they are.
Motto: "Why stand up if you can?"Nickname: "The Observer"
A child with a plegmatic personality is a child who has balance and tends to feel enough for what he has and he achieves. They feel they don't have to participate in changing the world or doing big ambitious things. For others, plegmatic children may look slower. This is not because they are not intelligent but rather they know better than others that things in life need not be overly questioned. Plegmatic children don't like challenges, risks and surprises. They need time to be able to adjust to a change. Although they tend to avoid difficult situations that are pressing, but they can still complete the task well even though under pressure. Unfortunately, they lack discipline and motivation to make them procrastinate if they are not led by leaders who are strong and can influence them.Pleased children tend to withdraw from association, but he likes to be near people. They have a lot of reason and like to say the right thing at the right time. Their thinking is steady and stable. In the debate, plematmatis is the preferred figure because they are very oriented to peace and like to create a sense of security that is suitable as a mediator or negotiator. Facing a child with a pleasing character, the communication approach needed must be full of friendship and without threats. This is because children of this type tend to behave as good listeners and observers. As a mediator, they will reconcile the people in dispute and they will help find a solution. If parents want to ask the child to do something, give it a clear division of tasks based on the level so that they can easily see their success. Don't forget to give appreciation to the child because plegmatis likes and is comfortable with the appreciation given to him.
Motto: "Let's do it right"Nickname: "The Thinker"
Children who have melancholic personality tend to be quiet, thinkers and demand perfection. Not Rarely are they often disappointed and frustrated with those that don't meet their expectations. This type of child needs support and calm to think before they do something. Melancholy children work with care and are organized and organized. This type of child can be relied upon to complete tasks according to Dealine. But their perfection can make them critical and pessimistic, because of their high standards of self.In the face of a melancholic personality child, a communication approach is needed to appreciate what the child has done. If you succeed in doing something, the melancholic type tends to not have a competitive spirit and is not too interested in the lure of prizes. If you want to ask a melancholic child to do something, convey it in a gentle and non-commanding manner. Instead, do it in a communicative way so that they are challenged to do it immediately. If the tasks they have to do are not finished, avoid arguments because their perfectionist personalities will make them blame themselves. Give constructive criticism and not sharp criticism.